Is a Self Help or Personal Development Book Ruining Your Life?

Self Help and Personal Development Books

First of all if you seek out self help and personal development in your life then I applaud you for taking responsibility for your life and for acting on your desire to improve yourself.

Unfortunately, not all information, self help, or personal development books are created equal and some can be downright damaging.

This may be a controversial topic by an author who has written a self help and personal development book, except when you realize that I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement to solve a problem I saw in the marketplace.

The problem is many self help and personal development books are just not that helpful; even worse, some could completely ruin your health and life.

Books Like The Secret Are Particularly Damaging

Now before many of you become defensive about the premise for the book above, namely, positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, I will say I am a great fan of the power of thinking positively.

Positive thinking can do a great deal to help lead the way towards a successful life, but one cannot simply think, dream, and wish for positive events to occur in life, therefore, spontaneously resulting in massive success.

It is a very sexy dream to do no work and expect the universe to deliver health, wealth, and happiness to your doorstep, just because you wish or believe it into your life.

There was an unfortunate case of this thought process documented on Oprah Winfrey and through the media shortly after Oprah Winfrey spotlighted The Secret by Rhonda Byrne on her show.

Kim Tinkham was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and a month later appeared on Oprah Winfrey stating she was not going to seek medical treatment for her cancer counter to the urging of multiple doctors.

Instead, Kim Tinkham decided to follow the advice in The Secret and “heal herself.”

Kim Tinkham later succumbed to her cancer and died.

Yes, following the advice of The Secret instead of her doctor’s advice resulted in Kim Tinkham having no chance to prolong her life, versus some chance by undergoing the surgery her doctor’s recommended.

Furthermore, if you stringently adhere to the teachings of The Secret one would have to believe we all, including Kim, bring bad things on ourselves strictly due to our thoughts.

Although positive thinking can cause some positive results. a plan is required to channel the positive thoughts putting them into action towards ultimate goal achievement.

However, positive thoughts alone cannot cure cancer, create wealth, and lasting happiness…these things take actual work. Also, bad things do happen to good, positive people and it is not their fault!

Sure, it is very enticing to think one can have everything you want in life without having to work for it, just by sitting home and thinking about it as well as keeping all bad events out of our lives.

Yet, the reality is having the life you want requires devising a plan and taking the steps necessary to achieve that life you envision, by the execution of that plan.

The 4-Hour Workweek…Ferris Bueller’s Day Off

Some of you younger folks may miss the comparison of Tim Ferriss’ book, The 4-Hour Workweek, to the 1986 Matthew Broderick movie, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.

In the movie, the main character has a knack for cutting school and getting away with it. Similarly, in his book, Tim Ferriss expounds about hacking your life by outsourcing just about everything, including your job.

Now, if you ever tried to actually follow Tim Ferriss’ advice you would be fired immediately from your present job and possibly never get another one.

Can you imagine dodging your boss all week using virtual assistants to do so and keeping your job?

I did like The 4-Hour Workweek for its entertainment value, but it is just that…entertainment!

It is a fun book, but if you ever tried to apply and follow Tim Ferriss’ advice you would certainly ruin your life.

The 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective Meandering Verbiage

Yes, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become a staple of the business world. Yet, I wonder how many people have actually read the book versus those who can quote Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits?”

I ask that question because the book is filled with preaching, patting himself on the back for being a great parent, and a full 58 pages (depending on the version you read) of meandering stories until he even gets to the first habit.

The book is so impractical that a workbook had to be created just to tell people how they might be able to use the “7 Habits” in their lives (that is after you read the 100,000+ word original book).

Mentor Me is born

Having surveyed the landscape of available self help and personal development books, I was not satisfied people were getting what they were seeking.

Namely, a book that would be helpful, actionable, practical, and delivered in a succinct manner that anyone can follow to help affect a positive change in their life.

This is why I wrote Mentor Me: GA=T+E—A Formula to Fulfill Your Greatest Achievement.

Along with the practical information, profound messages are scattered throughout for those who are seeking a higher life purpose, in addition to a guide for achieving their goals.

If you have not already read Mentor Me, then pick up your copy at Amazon here:…

Find out why people have called it “practical,” “succinct,” and “helpful.”

Also find out why Mentor Me has been quoted all over the globe and why I am quoted every single day in social media somewhere in the world!

Ken Poirot


An Expert Research-Finder,professionally trained in Journalism and Fine Arts(Graphics) with 32+years practice in the media world. A widely respected SEO GURU greatly delighted in helping clients in writing,traffic generation,research,editing and online submissions.

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